Are We Matured Enough The Way We Think We Are!!!

When I and my friend on a Sunday evening sat in one of the parks in Rajajinagar our discussion evolved around many known and unknown topics…not surprisingly the talk revolved around some peculiar characters among our friends as usual a non substitutable part of discussion whenever we meet up…. Whenever we start talk about one specific friend the common criticism about him is that he is not matured enough…..

During college days...Those who do not bunk classes with us are immature fellows from our point of view…those who have not come for first day first show movie with us ….those who are not able to fool parents and get bench fees……and those ever not part of our extravaganza are all considered immature ones….

This maturity topic is still hold true to our contemporaries even after substantial amount of years out from college….still some of our friends are not matured as we …this is what we have to say about us…this hold true that every other person that he thinks that he is matured than his counterpart…

As all of us knew maturity is not directly proportional to the age…. except physically, it is not true that the more age we become the more we mature we attain …..

The other day I had to meet my friend who suspects his father’s maturity for the words he spoke during a period of crisis ….

Maturity is always travels from a level of Dependence to a level of Independence to a level of Interdependence….

A matured mind will think about interdependence and will reflect this understanding in what ever words spoke or whatever act performed….

We can not be understood by others as matured as long as our words and deeds reflect that we show dependence to others and their opinion ….or too much independence from others and their opinions ……

When we could see both sides of the sword ….when we can understand both sides of the same story …when we do not judge people by one season….when we do not generalize things…when we do not agitate or panic when untoward incidents happen…when we tend to be balanced can be considered to be matured ones…

Like love maturity does not be anger….does not find faults…does not know ego…does not tend to dominate ….maturity tend to listen… maturity is slow in passing judgments….it does not provoke…. In a sense both love and maturity are indistinguishable….are we matured enough? In other sense, are we good in loving others?

Arther.C